I was remembering how strong the theme of fear was in our check-in at the Burren and came across the below in one of my favourite books this morning
(The book is 'Consultants Journey : A Dance of Work and Spirit' by Roger Harrison)
He writes :
'I came to understand the central role of fear as a barrier to conflict resolution, problem solving, and even learning in organisations. Therefore an important part of our program was its focus on reducing one's own and other's fear of loss. The idea is simple, yet the implications are huge. When people are operating at high levels of fear they are not very good problem solvers. Fear narrows the range of alternatives people can consider. Fear reduces their ability to take in and process information, especially if it is complex. Fear predisposes them to premature closure and precipitate reactions. High fear leads people to persevere in tactics and strategies that are not working'
Given the times and context we are in, I think it is usually healthy to name 'fear' and discuss how we deal with it, provided their is enough container to make this reasonably safe.
Mindfulness is clearly relevant, as is anything that builds trust and relationships and anything that helps us distinguish the rational and irrational.
Creating a climate in which people can name their fear can be quite counter-cultural - helping people to talk about the things we don't normally talk about.
I think there was some genuine depth tapped into in that check-in and there may be a seam here that needs more prominence within the AoH whole.
I'd be very interested in any thoughts / reflections others may have ...
And now I've found - this extra bit from Roger Harrison re love - 'the opposite of fear'
More of helping people talk about what we don't normally talk about ...
Having been accepted into the AOH family I'm now adding the comments here that I sent by email: